In couples therapy, it’s common for couples to feel trapped in a ‘negative loop,’ where they repeatedly argue about the same issues without feeling understood or equipped to address them effectively. This can be both frustrating and futile.

However, in couples or marriage counseling, it’s possible to intervene and short-circuit this negative pattern. As a couples therapist, my role is to act as a catalyst, enabling each member of the couple to hear and validate each other’s experiences when they’re unable to do so themselves. Over time, usually much shorter than expected, the couple begins to accept each other’s experiences, viewing problem-solving as a joint endeavor.

Success in couples counseling often hinges on the couple’s commitment to strengthening the relationship. Each partner must approach the sessions with an open mind, willing to listen without defensiveness. While the process isn’t always easy, successful couples therapy can lead to a deepening of the relationship, where honest communication is not only achieved but welcomed.