Most couples put an incredible amount of time, energy, expectations, planning and finances into their wedding. The romance and excitement revolving around that one day can be beyond overwhelming. But what of the days, weeks, and years that follow this magnificent day?
Having prepared thoroughly for that perfect wedding day, the question arises – “Has the life after the wedding been prepared for as carefully, attentively and thoroughly?” What about the actual marriage? What can prepare a couple for the ups and downs of married life, the issues of living together, the strategies of bringing two worlds together to function in harmony as one?
As individuals we face life challenges – daily decision making regarding jobs, finances, living arrangements, health and wellness issues, as well as perceived – psychological, emotional and physical needs. We have family concerns, habits and routines, obligations, spiritual lives, patterns of living. When teaming up with a partner it may be advantageous to learn strategies and skills aimed at synchronizing each individual’s picture of the “good life”. Each partner brings their own opinions, hopes and dreams to the “table”. Good communication is essential for a strong, successful, happy marriage.
As the couple gets to know each other they find their images of what married life offers may vary. Choosing premarital counseling can be a way to get familiar with each other’s vision and pave the way for a thoughtful, loving and cooperative partnership. Premarital counseling sessions can help couples avoid the roadblocks that can hit once the honeymoon is over. They can help allay fears, answer tough questions, face possible pitfalls, as well as, prepare for and problem solve potential differences so that there are less unwanted surprises, and more agreements on the journey ahead.
What married couple does not want to live peacefully and happily ever after? Marriage is a huge life transition and commitment. If we treat it respectfully and prepare for it wisely, the rewards will more likely be treasured for years to come. Premarital counseling sessions can make a world of difference as a couple moves forward in their new shared life grounded in strength, trust and togetherness.
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